{"id":183,"date":"2021-07-01T10:48:48","date_gmt":"2021-07-01T10:48:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jamiamasjid.securityguardsuk.com\/?page_id=183"},"modified":"2021-07-29T11:49:16","modified_gmt":"2021-07-29T11:49:16","slug":"marriage-in-islam","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/jamiamasjid.com\/?page_id=183","title":{"rendered":"Marriage in Islam"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t

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Nikah & Walima in Islam\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[24:32] Arrange the marriage of the spouseless among you, and the capable from among your bondmen and bondwomen. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His grace. Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing.<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Importance of Marriage in Islam:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Islam has not only permitted Nikah but encouraged it and emphasised its importance. Muslim society has been commanded by Allah (SWT) to engage in Nikah and actively support each other in this endeavour:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[24:32] Arrange the marriage of the spouseless among you, and the capable from among your bondmen and bondwomen. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His grace. Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Muslim women have also been discouraged to live a life of celibacy and commanded by Allah (SWT) to choose a suitable spouse:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[2:232] When you have divorced women, and they have reached (the end of) their waiting period, do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they mutually agree with fairness. Thus the advice is given to everyone of you who believes in Allah and in the Hereafter. This is more pure and clean for you. Allah knows and you do not know.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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In fact, Allah (SWT) describes his special blessings to Prophets (AS) having granted them wives and children:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[13:38] We have sent messengers before you, and gave them wives and children. It is not for a messenger to bring a verse without the will of Allah. For every age there are some rules prescribed.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Our beloved Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) also commanded Muslims to engage in Nikah as it is best for their character and modesty and helps them with guarding their gaze.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Narrated \u2018Abdullah (RA): We were with the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah\u2019s Apostle (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, \u201cO young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.\u201d [Bukhari]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Warning to those who disregard marriage:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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The Sunnah of Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) discourages from life of celibacy and abstinence from Nikah and equates abstinence from Nikah as not following the traditions of Islam.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Narrated Anas bin Malik (RA):\u00a0 A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, \u201cWhere are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.\u201d Then one of them said, \u201cI will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.\u201d The other said, \u201cI will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.\u201d The third said, \u201cI will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.\u201d Allah\u2019s Apostle came to them and said, \u201cAre you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).\u201d [Bukhari]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Legal Status of Marriage in Islam<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Shaykh (Mufti) Mohammed Sajjad writes, \u201cNikah is a very blessed Sunnah so much so that scholars have written to occupy oneself in arranging to marry, or in maintaining ones\u2019 marriage through earning a living etc. is preferred over performing extra (nafl) acts of worship, See Rad al-Muhtar, vol.4 p.57. Having said this, for a person who cannot control his gaze and is committing Zina of the eyes etc. it will be obligatory (wajib) to marry to preserve his Deen.\u201d<\/p>
Shaykh (Maulana) Khalid Saifullah Rahmani writes in Halal wa Haram, \u201cIt is even recommended for a person who has sexual urges but doesn\u2019t fear that he will fall into Fitnah that he should marry and some have categorised his status (need) for Nikah as Sunnah while others as Mustahab (recommended) but in reality Nikah cannot be categorised as less then Sunnah and those who have declared it Mustahab (recommended) for him do actually mean that it is indeed Sunnah\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Procedure for Marriage in Islam:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Choosing a suitable partner:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Although beauty, physical attraction or a feature which is pleasing can be adopted as a means of choosing a partner as subtly hinted in the Qur\u2019aan:\u200f<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[4:3]\u2026marry the women you like\u2026<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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But the ultimate criteria and basis should be the religious inclination and practice of the individual.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Narrated Abu Huraira (RA): The Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, \u201cA woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. [Bukhari]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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A healthy marital life coupled with a good relationship make up the prime objects of Nikah. That is only possible when natural inclinations and backgrounds are shared (by both spouses). In the absence of such unity, living together successfully, despite great effort is indeed difficult, as attested to by many marital breakdowns due to non-compatibility.<\/p>
Certain actions and situations elicit different responses from persons of differing backgrounds and nature. For this reason, the Shari\u2019ah has considered Kafaa\u2019at (suitability and compatibility) between spouses necessary.<\/p>
Shaykh (Maulana) Khalid Saifullah Rahmani writes in Halal wa Haram, \u201cFuqaha have suggested nine (9) areas of Kafaa\u2019at (suitability and compatibility) and they are:<\/p>
1. <\/span>Lineage<\/p>
2. <\/span>Being independent or enslaved<\/p>
3. <\/span>Born Muslim or being a Revert (to Islam)<\/p>
4. <\/span>Trustworthy and having Taqwa<\/p>
5. <\/span>Financial status<\/p>
6. <\/span>Honour and community standing<\/p>
7. <\/span>Profession & Trade<\/p>
8. <\/span>Free from physical defects<\/p>
9. <\/span>Intellect and Maturity<\/p>
However, the main aspect for consideration is Deen & Akhlaq as Allamah Kasani (RA) has stated in Badai-us-sanai, \u201cIt is preferred by us to consider Deen and to rely on it exclusively\u201d \u201c<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Looking at the potential partner:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Shaykh (Maulana) Khalid Saifullah Rahmani writes in Halal wa Haram, \u201cIslamic Shariah wants the bonds of marriage to be strong and everlasting therefore it is recommended to look at the person beforehand and it is permitted to look at her in secret. However, looking should be with the intention of marrying and not for evil purposes and it is not permitted to spend time with the potential spouse in seclusion\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah (RA): Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, \u201cWhen one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her.\u201d [Abi Daud]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Venue for Marriage and publicising it:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Shaykh (Mufti) Ibraheem Desai\u00a0 writes, \u201cIt is Sunnah for the marriage to be pronounced and performed in the Masjid\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Aisha (RA) narrated that Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, \u201cPublicise these marriages, conduct them in mosques, and beat the duff (tambourines) to announce them\u201d. [Tirmidhi]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Proposal & Acceptance, two male witnesses and Wakeel and the Dowry:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Since the purpose of Nikah is to safeguard a person\u2019s chastity and modesty, Islam has kept the procedure for Nikah very simple and straight forward.<\/p>
Shaykh (Mufti) Ibraheem Desai\u00a0 writes, \u201cNikah is performed with a proposal (Iejaab) by the male or female and acceptance (Qubool) by the male or female in the past tense and in the presence of two male Muslim witnesses (Hidaaya vol. 2). The bride gives consent to her representative (Wakeel) in the presence of two witnesses to perform her marriage at the Masjid. At the Masjid, the Wakeel represents the bride in the presence of the two witnesses and the stipulated dowry. The witnesses must be two trustworthy and pious male Muslims who are not her ascendants e.g. father, grandfather or descendants e.g. son, grandson, etc. The Mahr (dowry) is the woman\u2019s right and should be stipulated prior to the marriage.\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Aisha (RA) narrates that Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said, \u201cThere is no marriage except with a wali and two witnesses of good character.\u201d[Bayhaqi]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Ibn Qudamah (RA) said: Marriage cannot be done except with two Muslim witnesses, whether the couple are both Muslims, or only the husband is Muslim\u2026[Al-Mughni]<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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[4:4] Give women their dower in good cheer. Then, if they forego some of it, of their own will, you may have it as pleasant and joyful.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Sample Nikah Certificate:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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This is not a requirement in Islamic law for the validity of the Nikah. However, it is generally advised for record keeping and it is recommended that a copy of this certificate along with copies of the necessary documentation should be kept at the Mosque.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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